I see this statement all the time in homeschooling communities: “My family doesn’t support our choice to homeschool.” Usually, it’s followed by the question, “What should I tell them?” Some even worry that a mother-in-law, aunt, or spouse might test their child on the side to “make sure they’re learning.”
Here’s the reality: you don’t owe anyone advice or explanations if they aren’t actively contributing to raising your child or helping support your household. Homeschooling is your choice, and it is based on your family’s priorities, not on appeasing relatives or random strangers.
I’ve had strangers ask if my daughter is “on break” when we’re out on a school day. Our answer is simple: “We homeschool.” And if they dared to quiz her, I would ask them a question back. Most could not answer a basic fifth-grade question in math or geography. It is a clear reminder that homeschooling builds children who can think critically and apply practical knowledge, not just memorize for tests.
So what do you do if relatives push back? You stay firm. Your child’s education is your responsibility, not theirs. Instead of trying to convince everyone, focus on creating a strong and joyful learning environment at home. Encourage your family to read about the history of education, because many will discover that standardized schooling is a relatively modern invention and that home-based learning has a long and rich tradition.
Homeschooling is about freedom, flexibility, and curiosity, not winning approval from outsiders. The more confident you are in your choice, the easier it becomes to handle pushback with grace.